As a mother being guilty is nothing new. Did I not breastfeed long enough? did I put my baby in daycare to soon? OMG I can't believe I accidentally caught my baby's foot in the car door :S
As a mother being hard on ones self seems to be second nature. This is doubly so when it comes to our weight. I really think this surmounts by the celebrated and dreaded first birthday. When Angel (6) turned one I was 5 kilos off my pre baby weight no easy feat since I had gained around 29 kilos, I felt proud. When Willow (2) turned one I was 8 months pregnant with Lincoln so no one expected me to be the image of svelteness. Then Lincoln turned one and some how I weighed the same as I did in my final trimester with him......
So you feel guilty about your weight then you punish yourself with negative thoughts. This also happens when we veer off our diet. I can remember the first week when I seemed to gain instead of loose, this made me want to eat everything insight. But really why would I punish myself for something that wasn't my fault. Also by falling of the bandwagon and then punishing myself even more what is achieved by that?
If you child has an accident you reassure them that everything is ok and accidents happen. When your child makes mistakes you tell them off but you don't go on and on and berate them down to nothing. When a friend in need calls you, you make them feel better. Yet when we do something we seem to react. There is the saying you are your own worst enemy. How about trying to be your own biggest fan. Focus on your achievements and not your shortcomings.
Look at your children and think well you gained weight from giving life and you are doing your best to get it off. It takes time and there are always bad days just remember tomorrow is a day free of mistakes xxxxx
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